So you’ve been thinking about all this BDSM stuff. Mostly, it scares or confuses you. But curiousity being what it is… maybe you’d like to know more.
Thanks to Sasha, I found a really, really excellent primer on how BDSM works – it answers a LOT of the questions I had when I first got curious about this lifestyle, in a very conversational, sane, and forthright way. I’m going to recommend it not only to you but to any of my friends who are curious about this lifestyle, and still have questions.
The primer: Why BDSM?.
When it comes right down to it, if your goal is self-knowledge and personal enlightenment, I put six months in a BDSM relationship up there with three years in a Tibetian monestary any day.
Most people who haven’t read or played much with BDSM find it incredible to believe that BDSM is so heavily psychologically charged, that you can actually learn things and even work out issues you’ve had for years within the limits of a loving BDSM relationship.
But it’s true. I’m a healthier and more emotionally evolved person as a result of the play that I’ve done with my partners. I know myself better and have learned more about my psyche than I could possibly explain in this wee post.
Anywhoo, go. Read.
[And as a side note – my partner got me this lovely I Enjoy A Good Spanking t-shirt for Christmas. It’s hilarious. And it fits like a dream. I’m waxing and waning between anticipation and dread for when the summer comes and he wants me to wear it in public. ;)]