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So my man decided to join me in the shower last Saturday. He loves to wash my hair and back and, okay, naughty bits too. (Truth be told, I think he's mainly there for the naughty-bit-washing. The shock!) On this particular Saturday, I was out of body wash. Vikki's been...
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2007.06.08
According to my man, who has done intensive study on the subject, I apparently have three types of orgasm. I laughed out loud when he said it - that many types, really? - but once he explained it to me, I couldn't help but agree. Please note the naming is...
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2007.05.28
Opening your legs is one of the most vulnerable things a woman can do. It gives access to areas of her body where she's most sensitive, most vulnerable. Done right, the simple act of getting those legs open for the first time can be a huge turn on in and...
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2006.12.17
I'm sure the only computers still checking this web site for updates are manned by 'bots; however, that's OK. This was always more a place for me to think out loud and formulate my desires, dreams and opinions "out loud", so to speak - so it's just fine that there...
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2006.09.06
Today, I ran across the craziest bit of bling (and normally I, like most girls, am healthily attracted to bling) that I've ever seen in my life. That is to say, I found a $1500 vibrator. Yeah, you read that right. Called the YVA Gold, the thing is a cordless,...
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2005.09.17
Lately, I've been reading some things that make it hard for me to maintain a grip on my feelings towards men. I realize, fully and completely, how stupid and pointless and unfair it is to tar an entire gender with the same brush. And yet. The theme this week seems...
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2005.08.29
Mark Morford was telling me this morning all about something that he thinks is the most sex-positive thing to happen in simply ages. The news is simple. Amazon sells sex toys. (Okay, that's not exactly news. But I love his take on it.) What a wonderful message this sends. What...
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2005.08.19
I've recently been reading Sex in the Office, yet another in a long series of Black Lace short story collections, and I have to admit, the whole Sex in the Office thing does it for me. Actually, the whole forbidden fruit thing does it for me, period, but that's a...
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2005.08.18
Bear with me, all, this post's been a long time in coming. And those of you who still manage to stop by occasionally may begin to understand why Vikki's been such a quiet little thing this year. It's been a tough year. There's been cancer, and almost-cancer, a heart attack,...
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2005.07.30
A blanket response to all the women who have e-mailed me lately looking for relationship advice: I don't know why it is that women will stay in hurtful, dead or downright abusive relationships for as long as they do. "But I love him!" they moan. [I'm lying. Of course I...
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2005.06.29
Life has been crazy lately. It has been tense, it has been busy, and it has required me to be Alert And In Control far too often. My S.O.'s life has also been tense and busy. Our visits with each other have been far less frequent than either of us...
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2005.05.25
[Wow. Did I really last post something here two months ago? I'm so sorry, folks, it has been a tough time and the days and weeks have been slipping away from me too quickly, sand through my fingers and no real way to grab on of late. But I do...
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2005.05.22
It didn't take long after my first shave to figure out that I loved being completely bare between the thighs. It felt sexy and soft and a little naughty, and I couldn't get enough of it. The biggest problem, of course, was how to maintain this slip-slidey feeling all the...
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2005.03.18
I know. Two posts in a month. Y'all might faint. :) Dana writes: I was just wondering if you could tell me exactly how you got into BDSM? I mean, was it something that just happened? A partner who was interested and sparked your interest? You had always been interested...
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2005.03.17
Something happened the other night that has me mystified. I was being stimulated, close to orgasm, built up and up and then finally I was there, I was having an orgasm but it didn't feel like relief, it felt like there was more and things kept happening and it built...
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2005.03.05
So you've been thinking about all this BDSM stuff. Mostly, it scares or confuses you. But curiousity being what it is... maybe you'd like to know more. Thanks to Sasha, I found a really, really excellent primer on how BDSM works - it answers a LOT of the questions I...
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2005.01.17
Ross writes: Hi I have been going out with my girlfriend now for 16 months now and i just want tips on how to give her better orgasm's Ross, honey, you're asking the wrong lady. Why do people always look outside the relationship for suggestions like these? Look, everybody (well,...
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2005.01.13
You know, I swore this year I wouldn't bugger around with trying to find holiday items to link to; I did enough of that last year. But I just ran across this blog tonight, featuring links and sexy Christmas photos, and had to share: http://xxxmas.yourdirtymind.com/ Also, Eden has added a...
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2004.12.20
There are so few good movies out there that explore power exchange. BDSM porn is useless to me, in most cases, since it's incredibly contrived and the actors so rarely enjoy their roles or the activities they're performing. What's more, the eroticism just isn't there in most cases. And for...
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2004.12.19
This sure is a strange and digital world we all live in. I had a number of lovers before my first husband, but that was back in the BC days (before computers - at least, for me), so for the most part I've never seen nor heard from them ever...
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2004.12.17
No, silly, not what you think. However, I have recently been found fantasizing about walls. Er. Let me explain. Walls are just hot. Push me up against them and I switch into subbie, wet, horny mode almost immediately. Shove your cock against me, and it's even better. It's dramatic without...
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2004.12.14
Whether you're just nudging around the edges of kinky play or delving deeply into a BDSM-centered relationship, limits are something you have to think about, and discuss. What your personal limits are. What their personal limits are. And so on. But there's another limit that I hadn't really touched on...
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2004.12.11
1. Mentholated shaving cream is very, very tingly on your nether bits. 2. If your partner is shaving you, it requires a level of intensity, concentration and observation that is absolutely surreal. They will know you better than you know yourself down there when it's all over. 3. Shaving "with...
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2004.11.23
You know, I've been keeping a sex blog for - what - 4 years now? And it never ceases to amaze me the number of come-ons I get in my inbox every week. That's not bragging, folks, just for the record; it truly is flabbergasted disbelief. I've been approached (via...
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2004.10.26
Was running through my blogroll today, catching up on what everyone has to say. And spanking, it would seem, is the theme du jour. Or is it just that I read a lot of sites about this? At Spanking Blog, Bethie talks about her birthday spanking (leaving me unbearably jealous...
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2004.10.11
You know, I never really considered myself an exhibitionist. Despite my deep wet sexual ungh for public places, it was never really the being seen itself that was the turn on - just the danger that you could be caught. I think. Er. That is to say, I'm not sure....
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2004.09.28
eb writes: im currently with a man that is uncircumcised and i have never been with an un-done man before and i am afraid to go down on him orally 'cause im worried i wont know how to do it. Is it any different? Do you have any tips that...
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2004.09.27
Since I'm on a kick with my last post about hiding your sexuality... I can't tell you how many people in the BDSM lifestyle I've spoken to who are completely in the closet about their kinky life. To the point of breaking down furniture, completely cleaning or changing their rooms...
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2004.09.27
Please note that this story is going to be very broken up due to editorial comments, which are in italics. Bear with me! :) So a girlfriend of mine calls me today to tell me a funny / horrifying story. Well, funny to me - horrifying for her. Once or...
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2004.09.22
So I've been promising for ages to tell you all about the one and only time I ever kissed another girl. This seemed like a good enough moment to sit and pen the tale. Like most of my stories, it has an element of the ridiculous. I swear, I don't...
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2004.09.14
It is a squeaky and absurdly early hour of the morning, and I found myself sitting here and thinking: what better thing to do than write a post? The problem with a sex-only blog, you see, is that when you hit a period in your life when you don't have...
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2004.09.07
Wow, it's been all about the vagina month, hm? Guess I was kind of on a kick. The good news is today, I have lovely and yummy toys to share. Somehow I'd missed the lovely site that is Extreme Restraints until Eden pointed me to it today, and I have...
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2004.07.30
The inimitable Jonathan Quince (who I really do believe should just officially change his name to that) provided some lovely comments to my 100 sexy things post, not the least of which was this question: 78. Forgive me for sounding ignorant of the workings of female anatomy; but if I...
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2004.07.25
Since I'm bored tonight, and feeling a little at loose ends, I thought I'd try my own version of the 100 things meme that seems to make the rounds in the blogosphere every so often. However, since I figure none of you really care about the color of my couch...
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2004.07.25
I don't know if this is the same for every woman, so bear with me. A random sampling of my girlfriends made up this argument in the form of Public Service Announcement; your results may vary with other women. We've all heard the bit of truism that says lovers tend...
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2004.07.16
I have finally found the man of my dreams. Game over. The new man in my life, pagan god that he is, wrote me the first email in our new, lifelong correspondence just last night: Hey vikki.. You sound like the perfect babe to me. I am availabel anytime you...
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2004.07.08
You know, I hesitated for a long time writing about my issues with cunnilingus. I hate like hell to show my clay feet, and prefer most of the time to reside on the earth-goddess pedestal I just know you've all put me on. :) That said, I've been blown away...
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2004.07.08
I've got to say, I love getting comments on here - keep 'em coming! Particularly when you've also got a kinky blog; I've found a few great sites recently, often because of sites left in comments or sites that my commenters link to in their own blogs. Newest finds, all...
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2004.07.06
I am so, so relieved to know I'm not the only woman out there with a Bill Clinton fetish. I have been in serious heat for the man ever since seeing him, pre-presidency, on the Arsenio Hall show (yeah, I know, I'm dating myself here), playing a saxophone. Damned sexiest...
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2004.07.02
Whew! Well, that was a depressing entry, wasn't it? Never fear, I'm still the kinky perverted chick you've all come to know and worship. ;) It's about time to move on to much more amusing things! Luckily, just through my regular browsing du jour, I came across several lovely finds...
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2004.06.29
Bear with me, oh faithful reader, as I expose myself (ahem) on a level which doesn't often happen around here - I'm all for talking about my likes, but a little squirmier talking about the sexual things that I just don't have a handle on yet. So to speak. Kind...
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2004.06.27
Ran across an interesting set of lecture notes from a BDSM talk. While there are things in here I both agree with and disagree with, this resonated enough to want to share: THE FANTASY: Every dominant, everywhere, must always be addressed deferentially as "Sir" (or "Ma'am," if she is female),...
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2004.06.20
Before I get into this post, let me make the PC-correcting statement that I don't mean to make light of real transgender issues. That said... I think I'm a gay man trapped in a woman's body. More specifically, I think I'm a leather-lovin' bottom with a wee hankering for a...
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2004.06.17
So there's this fantasy I've been entertaining lately. I do not know where it came from (well, my pervy little mind, obviously, but bear with me). And I don't know if I'd ever actually have the guts to do it, but oh how it turns me on. You don't mind...
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2004.06.17
Sure, sure, you've all heard the jokes about statutory rape and incest in a few states - Arkansas and Virginia come to mind - but I always kind of thought they were jokes. Seriously. But, apparently it's a real problem. Big enough that the Department of Health in Virginia has...
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2004.06.17
Sometimes boys can be very silly little creatures, whining about having to look at dick on a sex blog. At least, that's what's been happening recently on ErosBlog when our beloved Bacchus (equal opportunity perv that he is) posted a lovely upkilt photo of a very nice Scottish cock. Not...
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2004.06.15
It's dark and stormy outside right now. God, I love thunderstorms. They make me feel wild and sexy and unrestrained. It makes me want dark and dangerous things. All that power. It makes me shiver. I miss many things about my time spent playing with BDSM, but one of the...
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2004.05.22
A million years or so ago I promised to tell the story of He With The Magic Fingers. I warn you, the story might take a while, because there's more to it than fingers. It started pretty innocently; friendship. I was still married, still living with my husband, though only...
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2004.05.17
You know, when I first set up this blog a billion and a half years ago (4+ years ago, Internet time) I set up a single guideline: no talking about present lovers. I could talk about the past, fantasize about the future, but no fair mentioning current partners. It was...
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2004.05.11
As an update to my rant on the extremists against gay marriage earlier this month... I am so glad I am not the only one who feels the need, at last, to point out the sheer and utter ridiculousness of the extremists who fear that bestiality may, indeed, come along...
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2004.03.25
Tease Drinkware Set: Each Tease set contains four small but perfectly formed 'appendage' shot glasses, plus a highly impressive giant-size centrepiece; so if you're the kind of girl who thinks size matters, fill it up and take a nice big slurp. Women need never experience penis envy again... Too funny....
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2004.03.23
I also keep forgetting to blogroll Ken over at Suburban Sex Blog, shame on me, spankings owed. :) His site just makes me laugh. I realize that's not why he's writing it, but oh, how I wish I could have found that forceful, pissed off voice during the dark years...
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2004.03.14
I have been known (from time to time) to be a bit, shall we say, picky when it comes to how clean my place is. Which is not to say it's ever truly immaculate. I have dog, which means the minute I clean every bit of dog hair out of...
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2004.03.14
My girlfriend has been telling me all about the cool quizzes and tests at Match.com. (She knows I'm a personality quiz whore.) And yes, yes, I kept meaning to get to it. So thanks to the lady formerly known as the Dirty Whore for reminding me about the free physical...
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2004.03.12
You know, the perception is that the Internet is about free speech. And to some extent, that's absolutely true. Anyone can set up a web site and say anything they like, really. But when it comes to personal play spaces - like this blog - well, the only speech that's...
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2004.03.10
Yes, despite the unerring abilities of the boy to find my pleasure points and keep me on the edge of orgasm for-freaking-ever (more on that in a later post - grin), Vikki is still a woman who enjoys her toys. Which is all a preamble, really, to break the news...
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2004.03.08
You know, I've tried really hard to stay out of the whole fracas to do with gay marriage. First, because I try so very hard to not be political on this blog. Second, because everybody and their freaking brother in blogland is talking about it. Who wants to read more...
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2004.03.06
Now, I know what you're thinking when you read that title. You're thinking that Vikki must have been getting herself all kinds of wild, over the top, major-home-appliances-involved kind of kinky sex to have hurt her nose. And it's an amusing thought, really. I'm almost inclined to play along. But...
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2004.03.04
So a while back I mentioned finding a blog written by a gentleman, ostensibly not connected to drug companies in any way, who was keeping a record of his experiment with penis enlargement drugs. I don't know why I thought of this tonight, but I did, so I went back...
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2004.02.21
Whole bunches of stuff to talk about today... sorry it's been so long since my last post! The Viagra Prank: This guy decided to give Viagra a whirl, to see what all the fuss was about (link snagged via Kottke). Aboslutely hilarious adventure. My favourite quote: I suddenly realized that...
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2004.02.20
Now, I'll be the first to admit that I'm simply terrible with email for this site. It's not you, honestly - I love you all. But between the day job (200+ emails/day), the night job (50+ emails/day), and personal emails, I'm one overloaded chickie when it comes to email. I...
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2004.02.11
The boy helped me to realize another fantasy the other night. It was one of the most erotic and exciting moments of my life, and I just had to share it with you. Those of you who have been regulars around here know my curiousity with the tease. Particularly the...
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2004.02.06
I have to admit, I'm not so much into cybersex. At least not the full-on, beginning to end, "I'm pretending I'm licking your hot hard cock..." kind of cybersex. Yes, I've done it. Yeah, I'll probably do it again. But it's not my preference. I prefer my online exchanges to...
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2004.01.31
As long as I can remember, I've had a fantasy about porn theaters. Most of the time, it's pretty demure - go there with a lover, cop some naughty feels, maybe kneel on the sticky floor and take him in my mouth while he watches the action onscreen. In my...
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2004.01.26
I'm a naughty, naughty girl. But I've finally received the spanking that was so long overdue. It hasn't whipped me into obedience, quite yet - but I will say that oh, how I have missed the feel of a big, strong hand connecting with my tender bottom. The boy knows...
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2004.01.24
Well, the imagined new design is now cut, styled and up for your perusal. It's been tested in most major browsers on PC, but if it looks wonky for you, please let me know. Finally, I have a blogroll of sorts - been meaning to do so for ages, if...
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2004.01.24
Amusingly, just as soon as I complained about not having enough time to do some reconstruction work on this blog, I got inspired by a snazzy illustration and reworked the whole canoodle in an hour in Photoshop. It's sexy and I think you'll all like it; look for it within...
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2004.01.23
DeeGee Girl wrote recently: He laid me on the bed and ran his hands across my body. "I need to fuck your ass," he said quietly. There was no preamble. No foreplay. But I was so turned on by the prospect that I leaned on my side and waited for...
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2004.01.22
So... haven't been many posts lately. Thank goodness we can always depend on DW and the newly-returned-from-salacious-orgy Bacchus. Yes, I know there are thousands of other sex bloggers out there, and I read them occasionally (if I ever get to it, I'll also have a blogroll of sorts on the...
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2004.01.21
Oh. My. God. I just found it. I have no idea how it would feel to wear it, but oh, how I would die to experience it. The TongueJoy vibrator. The idea, really, of the tongue - and vibration - at the same time - argh. Reminds me of one...
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2004.01.12
You know, being in a sexless marriage was one of the most difficult things in my life. I felt very alone, very ugly, very worthless. And very frustrated, because I found my husband wildly attractive. The worst part of all, however, was being alone. The point is, I talked about...
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2004.01.11
You know, I don't often show my geeky side on here, but I'm about to for a moment, so if it's not a personal kink of yours, feel free to avert your eyes. This annoyed the hell out of me, just from sheer misunderstanding of how the web works. I...
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2004.01.09
Dear diary (and all you wonderful perverts out there who read this diary): Well, it is the last day of the year, and I have resolved to make next year a wonderful, salacious, unh-filled celebration of all that is good and naked and naughty. To that end, my resolutions... 1....
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2003.12.31
Finally back from the parents', and a Merry Christmas was had by all. Except... oh, this ongoing fantasy I've been having is wickedly potent. It's probably the celibacy doing it. I mean, sure, it's been ages since I actually had man-flesh next to my skin, and also the lack of...
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2003.12.29
For your delectation, a lovely gallery of bound wenches in the holiday spirit. I really like the one where she's tied with white mini-lights. It just looks so festive. And I'm nothing if not all about the festive at this time of year. :-) Santa, guess what I want for...
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2003.12.23
The panties say "I've been naughty" on the front, and "Spank Me" on the back. I'd like several pairs, please. ;) I am finding myself increasingly depressed by what I've been finding in the kinky personals. Married men. By the bucketful, really. Even though my profile clearly states I'm not...
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2003.12.21
For spankophiles, nothing says I love you like a whap on the bottom. During the holiday season, why not show your love with a Christmas theme? Nothing says Christmas like a light caning on the bottom with a PVC candy cane. Don't know how to make one? Here are all...
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2003.12.18
I was going to wait to share this until later, but I'm feeling guilty about leaving that hate-filled spew that was my last post as the first thing visitors see when they visit. So, I have another naughty Christmas link to share! Yes, you read it right. Santa Claus Porn....
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2003.12.17
Please be warned that there's a lot of vitriol below about men (particularly the just-out-of-the-box Republican kind), government, politics and Texas. A lot of it owes to my three whole hours of sleep last night. If you're not in the mood to read acid, feel free to skip. ;) ......
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2003.12.17
Following along with the kinky Christmas theme, I offer this link. Fun create-your-own kinky Christmas e-cards to send to friends, lovers, relatives, your boss, whatever. And behold, Vikki's ideal man... Let's see. He's brunette (I have this thing for brunettes), a little hairy (yum), a Christmas-y guy (for someone who...
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2003.12.16
Just in time for the holidays, I ran across the McCall Girl website, with a lovely holiday song called S&M Christmas. An excerpt: Each time that I spank you, I expect a "Please" and "Thank you" or the 'safe words' we made up they won't mean a thing. Now take...
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2003.12.14
First, thanks to all who wished me a happy birthday. It went very pleasantly, surrounded by good friends and family. And now life resumes its normal course. You know, if there's been one thing my 'nilla friends have said to me over the years, its this - aren't I afraid...
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2003.12.07
Every year around this time I find myself wondering how the hell the year went so fast - where did it go? Can I get it back? The old maxim about time speeding up as you get older is 100% true. Tomorrow is my birthday. I can't quite believe I'm...
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2003.12.05
I'm a very odd duck when it comes to the question of "cum". I absolutely love for a man to come in my mouth - it's my ending of preference, actually, as there's nothing like feeling those pulses between your lips, thighs sweetly trembling, the soft cries of a man...
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2003.12.02
Just occurred to me this morning (ah... even single, I can have morning-after regrets) that perhaps posting yesterday about my hatred of rubber and my fondness for giving head without protection might not be so politically correct given that yesterday was World AIDS Day. Oh, sure, I'm not the only...
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2003.12.02
So as I was saying (yeah, I know - you guys thought I forgot all about it, right? no such luck), I think romance writers create the best erotica. Oh, man, I can feel the eyes rolling from here. First of all, if you've never read several romance books (and...
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2003.11.26
You know, I love it when a comment gets me going enough that it inspires a whole new diary entry. Such as the case in my last post about blowjobs, where Symph asked: I was wondering what your reaction would be if he just lay there, not reacting at all...
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2003.11.26
I love it when hoaxes, like the one about blowjobs reducing the risk of breast cancer, make the rounds. Mainly because I'm an Internet geek, and I love the dynamics of a very powerful meme. But let's be honest here. I'm not a fan of sucking cock because it might...
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2003.11.24
The deliciously fascinating Rentboy (quite rightly) quoted: Women can sniff lies, condescension and arrogance a mile off. As he so charmingly put it: "Nothin' dries up a pussy faster than a bozo who think he's God's gift to it." I find his blog interesting reading. I hope he keeps it...
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2003.11.24
So everyone's been talking so much about Fleshbot, I decided to run through and take a look at what they have on offer. Pretty good blog. I particularly love the fact that they cover gay porn, too. Anyway, digging through their archives, I found a link so intriguing I had...
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2003.11.22
You know, a lot of people say that erotica and porn are all pretty much the same thing. And depending on the shape and size of their ruler, it could be they're right, but I tend to disagree. Ray Gordon, for those of you who know him, writes porn. In...
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2003.11.20
I haven't felt very sexy lately. Working two jobs is becoming a burden, and with almost a year to go (if all goes well) before I can quit job #1 and do job #2 full time, it's beginning to stretch me to my limits. My personal communiques with friends and...
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2003.11.19
Mark Morford, of course, my all-time favourite non-porn writer (though he does occasionally write for Nerve) - and have I mentioned how much I want to marry him? - has disgorged a wonderful rant on the GOP's latest attempt to get everyone in the missionary position once a year whether...
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2003.11.05
Vanilla Sex Goddess has summed up some thinking I've been doing quite nicely (saving me from having to actually come up with the words myself - bless her): The reality of the matter is his expectations are clear on what he thinks will happen. And while can't say I wouldn't...
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2003.11.03
You know what it's like when you find a new author you really, really love and then discover that he's written 40 or 50 books? It's like hitting the jackpot, baby. Good reading + prolific author = one happy Vikki. The same can be said for blogs. So when Bacchus...
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2003.10.31
I've talked before about my smart-ass nature, and how there's just this part of me that hopes that some day some man will have had enough of my smart mouth and either back me into a wall and kiss the living daylights out of me or pull me over his...
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2003.10.30
Lately I've found myself looking around more and more at Eros Boutique. Insert standard disclaimer here; I'm not affiliated with them in any way, just enjoy looking at their stuff. Their bondage furniture is, for the most part, interesting. Many many yummy things. I could easily picture myself (or on...
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2003.10.30
I love my friends. But some of them just don't understand the whole power play thing. I think they assume that because I enjoy being submissive (er... sometimes, anyway) that it means I'm crawling around on all fours, being humiliated, generally being made to feel like a lesser person. I...
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2003.10.29
Hit the wild and wooly web recently for a tour of what's new... The Sex Tutorial Weblog. I don't know who named this, but it's far more salacious than its title would have you believe: Many organisms show a positive correlation between paternal quality and offspring viability. The authors claim...
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2003.10.29
Spurred by my recent thinking, I decided to visit Northbound today. Oh, it's such a candy store in there for me. In my fantasies, I'll go one day hand in hand with a very devious man who has money to spend there, and he'll let me pick out the implements...
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2003.10.25
The problem with Halloween is I love to dress up, but I never have time to devote to thinking about a costume until it's almost too late to get anything good, and even if I do... well, the costs involved in the kinds of costumes I invariably imagine are prohibitive...
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2003.10.24
At long last all eleven parts of Spanking (the he said/she said erotic story I co-wrote with Arcturus, if you haven't been keeping up) have been posted to the site. I hope you've all enjoyed reading it - goodness knows we (well, I shouldn't speak for both of us, but...
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2003.10.19
Argh. My apologies for not getting part nine up last night; I have had two whirlwind very cranky days, and really, even if I'd had time, the last thing on my mind has been sex. I realize there are some of you who are now reeling in shock. I'll give...
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2003.10.17
There are days I hate thinking about marriage. My own, other people's, particularly when I glance through the old sexless marriage post or the new one, and read the replies. Or when I read about Bush's endorsement of Marriage Protection Week. Argh. And then, bless all that's sweet and sexy...
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2003.10.15
I'm allowed to have fantasies. The fantasy is that this man is a Dom who likes girls and is looking for someone just like Vikki to settle down with and tie up once in a while. The truth is he's probably some young boy's leather daddy. And besides, he lives...
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2003.10.14
Do you ever wake up disappointed? I had such a lovely dream last night... soft slow wet kisses, softer moans. His heat and power behind me. Feeling his fingers slide down my belly to my thighs, pulling them apart, further and further. Spreading me for him. His fingers tangling between...
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2003.10.13
I noticed that SpankBoss was kind enough to link to both my recent post on spanking and the he said/she said spanking story I've been posting over the last several days. So, hello and welcome to visitors coming here via Spanking Blog! (It is dangerously arousing to me to think...
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2003.10.12
I'm fascinated. Found a site devoted to fucking machines, appropriately labeled: fuckingmachines.com. Honestly, I had no idea so many existed. It's like watching Battlebots only with an orgasm instead of destruction as the end goal. I knew about the Sybian, of course. And was pretty skeptical, though intrigued. But this!...
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2003.10.11
Bacchus (back at last from his stint sucking pomegranate seeds from the navel of a nubile princess) writes about used sex toys and asks: Seriously, if I met another lady who wanted to play that way, wouldn't it freak her out to be tied up with lightly used cuffs? Lightly...
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2003.10.10
Daze recently linked to a Yahoo! story about something called "orgasmic headaches": There seem to be two basic patterns to these headaches: Type 1 usually begins as a dull pain that starts prior to orgasm, while type 2 has sudden onset, often described as a "thunderclap" headache, that occurs within...
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2003.10.10
Ran across yet another new sex blog (wow, is it just me, or has there been a virtual explosion the last six months or so?) and was perusing it, mildly amused, when wow. I ran across this post: I'm taking my (not made yet) marriage vows seriously, and I'm committed...
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2003.10.09
Along these same lines, I've been involved in writing my very first piece of collaborative fiction, with a lovely sexy man named Arcturus. It's sort of a he said/she said thing, and I had great fun trying out this new style of writing (although, as you'll read, he's far more...
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2003.10.09
When I first started reading about BDSM (scholar's solution to everything, I suppose - hit the books), I understood the physical aspects immediately. The emotional part of the whole thing was a little harder to understand. I was pretty skeptical, really, particularly about things like sub space. As I said...
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2003.10.09
I've added part two of the he said/she said story, Spanking. Go directly to part two... or read the whole thing from the beginning. Next part will be up tomorrow night!...
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2003.10.09
Recently, a friend of mine asked me to write about spanking. I find it hard to write on demand, but finally, after letting some thought bubble and simmer for a while, I've come up with some things to say. My first introduction to spanking was with a deliciously sexy partner...
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2003.10.08
Rumours of my demise are greatly exaggerated, I promise. :) For those of you who enjoy reading sex blogs, it's been pretty slim pickings - apparently I'm not the only one stuck in a weird malaise. With Bacchus gone, DW and Mike & Michelle sick, Blogasm showing a blank page...
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2003.09.24
So, I set up an About Me page a while back and then did absolutely doodly-squat with it. I had in mind I'd go back through my old posts, pull out some relevant ones, and give a brief overview to go along with it. But really, since the page is...
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2003.09.08
Also tonight, got thinking about a great quote from Natalie Angier's book, Woman. I went and looked it up again because I thought it was worth sharing: The clitoris is simply a bundle of nerves: 8,000 nerve fibers, to be precise. That's a higher concentration of nerve fibers than is...
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2003.09.08
So you're sitting around one night, and you think to yourself: "You know, I could have sworn I had some ben-wa balls around here somewhere." No? Never happen to you? Well, it did to me tonight—it's been a year or more since I'd even seen them—so I went hunting through...
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2003.09.08
I had actually intended this post for ErosBlog, but since we seem to be experiencing technical difficulties with the whole guest blogging thing, I decided to go ahead and post it here. Y'know, if I had a penny for every spam I've received urging me to Enlarge My Penis Now,...
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2003.08.30
I, along with fellow Canadians Mike and Michelle, will be guest blogging at ErosBlog over the next several weeks while its owner, Bacchus, takes a much-needed vacation. Personally, I think the guy is planning to hole up somewhere on a deserted beach with some nubile young thing and suck pomegranate...
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2003.08.22
I am so horny tonight it feels like my skin has Pop Rocks (remember that candy, from when we were kids?) inside. Nothing specific spurred it on, but oh baby, it's there now. If you were here, I'd strip you all naked and lay you out on furniture like fabric...
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2003.08.19
After keeping a sex-related blog for the last four years, using the services of several different online personals sites, and generally meeting men online in a variety of ways including via chatrooms and forums, I've come across enough of a sample to be able to know what is going to...
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2003.08.18
I have never had two men at once. Yes, I've fantasized about it for ages. Yes, I would probably try it if the opportunity presented itself. OK, who am I kidding, I'd be the first one nekkid. :) Nor have I ever been a Domme. Not sure I could pull...
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2003.08.10
I have been working my way through some stories at the new-to-me BDSM Library. I like to think of it as Literotica just for us kinky folk. I'm not completely wowed by the organization, I can think of much more useful ways to structure the ways you can find a...
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2003.08.08
Bacchus was talking about anal first-times (bad one mentioned here) and it got me to thinking about my own sort-of first time, only time, really. This entry could be subtitled “Why you should not have hot completely drunk monkey sex with a bad back”. About that bad back. Most of...
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2003.08.05
I always love learning how people found this site. I've been found in some truly interesting and deeply perverted ways, which makes Vikki a very happy and juicy girl. :) A lot of the time it seems like people are looking for information or advice, and it makes me a...
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2003.07.31
An interesting discussion is going on at the Erotica Readers site. It's about the tendency of some men (and some women, for that matter) to focus only on the naughty bits (nipples, clit, cock) during foreplay. Some useful learnin' here, especially for those who are curious about how people feel...
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2003.07.29
Louis wrote: I tried the "feather-light" touches last night. Wow! I really didn't expect her to react like that. Thanks! You see? Knew I wasn't the only woman in the world who turns into a moaning, writhing mass when a man justbarelytouches, skimming just his fingertips along my clit over...
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2003.07.26
I promised I’d tell you about some of my fantasies—the ones I’ve used to get me off, past and present. Tonight I’ll delve into the past. When I was a teenager, one of the sexiest things I could ever imagine happening to me was being grabbed by a gang of...
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2003.07.19
Everybody uses something to get themselves off, at least some of the time. Some people play back memories of sex they’ve had, others fantasize about sex they’d like to be having. Still others look at magazines, watch porn, spy on their neighbours having sex, read a sexy story or book,...
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2003.07.13
It is constantly amazing and deeply saddening to me to know that one of the most popular pages on this site (via search engines) is my post from last year called the sexless marriage. Sad enough that I opened up comments on the post, figuring maybe someone would want to...
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2003.07.11
The Dirty Whore has been talking about faking it. It's such a relief to see another sexually aware, indescribably juicy, fully in love with the unh woman admit that yep, she fakes it. Not all the time of course. But my body is greedy about its orgasms. It doesn't give...
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2003.07.10
When I started blogging in 2000, there just weren't a lot of sex blogs out there. Oh, sure, Daze, and a few others, but they were mostly news-oriented blogs as opposed to something more personal. Well, three years later, blogging has exploded (I rarely have to explain what a blog...
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2003.07.10
Two things that caught my interest tonight... Couple ordered to stop squealing and groaning during sex: An Italian couple have been ordered to make love more quietly after the woman’s screams of ecstasy provoked complaints from neighbours. The couple, both in their 20s, were taken to court after a family...
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2003.07.05
Halloween 1988 was an evening I will never forget. I was sitting beside my very first boyfriend (we had been going out all of two weeks) in my basement, watching the movie Halloween on video. It was completely dark in the room except for the flicker of the screen. My...
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2003.06.29
Vikki has been an incredibly busy girl of late, and exhausted as well. You'd think that would make me less horny and less likely to dally around with myself, but the opposite has been true. I've been obsessed lately. The slightest thing—the delicious curve of an ass seen on the...
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2003.06.14
Okay, so dirty little secret-sharing time here. First, a big disclaimer: I think what has been going on in the Catholic church is horrifying. I also am not a big fan of organized religion, particularly Catholicism, so this diary entry has nothing to do with advocating Catholicism, illegal sexual behaviour...
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2003.05.21
I've spent the last several days exploring the truly lovely site satin slippers. Very nice stories, pre-edited (which in my opinion is what makes the grade rather than free-for-all story sites). But wait! They've got non-fiction too. Not huge amounts, but what they have is top-shelf. Tonight I took a...
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2003.05.19
I am a smartass around men (some people just call this flirting, but it's more than that, really). Most men, actually. Doesn't even matter if I'm attracted to them or if I just work with them or if we're just friends, it's how I relate to them, how I get...
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2003.05.15
Will you do your part? :) Just a reminder that it's May and that means National Masturbation Month. Depending on where you live, there are fundraisers and other fun ways to participate in the festivities: Good Vibrations in S.F., Come As You Are in Toronto, Toys in Babeland in NYC...
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2003.05.11
In my wanderings this morning I ran across zenslut. You know what it's like when you run across a new journal or blog at what feels like exactly the right time? Everything clicks, and the one entry at the top actually catches your eye and makes you read further and...
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2003.04.27
The Fetish Quiz is fun. Here's what it had to say about me: You prefer only males for sex partners. You tend to be submissive. This will impact the interpretation of your various sexual interests. Materials like latex, vinyl, and leather probably excite you a great deal. You enjoy the...
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2003.04.27
As you can see below, I've at long last (and thanks to the numerous visitors who have written in lately to request new stories - you really got me off my butt about it!) posted a new story. It's called The Seduction, and I like to think of it as...
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2003.04.25
If there's one drawback to bullet vibes (or any vibe, really - wait, there are other kinds? - grin) it's that you have your choice of one, two, three, maybe up to seven speeds, but that's it. Once you've learned their grooves, there are no more surprises. This can be...
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2003.04.18
I recently received a letter from a visitor which read: I'd like to get your opinion on this scenario - A woman loves two men, both of them want her only for themselves, yet each realizes that the other man touches her in places that they cannot. She will not...
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2003.04.15
It applies to entering seven piece and is “episode 7”.Ran across a wonderful Japanglish site today that features some really amazing condoms. I'm tempted to pick them up just to show them off. Styles featured include a Pokemon condom, a Star Wars condom, a “Condom Man” (looks like Superman) condom,...
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2003.04.03
There's just something about a smirk. It's one of the most powerful sexual tools a man can possess. Used properly, it can cause arousal, anxiety, excitement, and more. No, really. It can make your heart race and feel like it's going to explode of your chest. A good smirk can...
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2003.03.26
One of the best Mark Morford rants ever: Please Accept This Diamond-Studded Dildo As Small Thank-You Women are less likely than men to reach the highest salary brackets and are more likely to live in poverty, according to a government survey. Nearly 16 percent of men age 15 and older...
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2003.03.24
It's sad, really. When I want to find interesting web sites about my other hobbies or my career, finding excellent web sites that are completely new to me is easy as pie. There is, as a matter of fact, far more excellent material out there than I will ever have...
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2003.03.09
I've noticed a rather disturbing development in my constant, vibrating tuning fork arousal over the last day or two. My legs ache. Especially my knees. A lot. It's like a constant hum, a body awareness I can't quite shake. Honestly, it's never been this bad for me. It's not painful,...
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2003.03.05
I must confess that I haven't been dating much recently. As in not for a year. Taking an emotional break, you could say. Yes, I still take care of the sensuality as much as I can - being aware of the senses, candlelit baths, listening to Morcheeba (I'm sorry, their...
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2003.03.04
The life of a sexuality blogger can be a dismal one at times, and today is just one of those times. Go to Google News, do a search on “sex” to see what's new in the news of sex, and here are the top ten headlines: Prosecutor to Lay Sex...
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2003.02.25
OK, dirty confession of the month: it's been simply ages since Vikki clicked her little self over to Goodvibes.com. I confess. Do with me what you may. The good news is that in my absence (and what else would you expect from such a top-drawer site like this one?) they've...
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2003.02.24
My photographic sense has evolved a lot in the last few years, thanks to the plethora of photographers I have in my life, each in their own way determined to help me better understand the art and the science behind what it is they do. And of course, given Vikki's...
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2003.02.24
Of all the descriptors I've heard recently, this is one of the best. Sasha says in her Love Bites column: You have no doubt already met boys who get very nervous and upset if you don't come. You just tell them you're not a Nintendo game. Remember: it's your body,...
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2003.02.23
First let me say I love Shere Hite. She's always got great things to say, and is well known enough to get a better podium than most to say it. And I quote: [T]he stimulation women give themselves to reach orgasm is - unlike that used by men - radically...
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2003.02.03
No news to anyone who's been reading this diary for a while that I love fingers. Love isn't even really the right word - I worship it. It is, bar none, the sexiest thing ever invented (to me) and it can be done in so many different ways and places...
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2002.12.31
Rented my very first Video-on-Demand last night, thanks to my new Digital Cable service. And, being Vikki, you had to know that the first flick I'd rent would be gay male porn! Actually, I had concerns. Most porn I've seen on Canadian channels (in hotels and such) are generally...
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2002.11.11
The Liberator: for those too large (or lazy - it could work there too) to get into all the myriad kinky positions available. Strange Sex Laws: It is against the law in the state of Washington to have sex with a virgin (even on the wedding night). Makes you...
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2002.09.29
Well, I've finally found a new home for the site that allows me to also be able to host the stories, musings and reviews. Thanks to all who wrote in to cheer me on while I was searching for something I could afford. :) Keep your eyes peeled for...
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2002.09.28
Smell is such a powerful sense. Most of the time we don't even realize it, but scents are all around us, every day, affecting our moods and our thoughts and our memories. I walked through the park tonight and suddenly smelled him. A lover's scent is one of the...
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2002.08.31
Well, a new home and a new face to Herdesires. Those of you looking for porn might as well back out now. Hosting costs became something I could no longer afford and I needed to do something about it, so I've cut everything else out, moved the diary to...
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2002.08.28
A girlfriend of mine has ranted and raved about this movie for as long as I know her. It's wonderful, you'll love it, she said. So this week I figured what the hell and picked it up. I had no idea what it was about, even what genre of...
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2002.08.01
Salon featured an article last month (and yeah, it's taken me this long to find it... Vikki's been a busy girl) called I Wanna Hold Your Hand. My confession, then: I have gone to bed with men, in part, for the beauty or agility or originality of their hands. Some...
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2002.07.11
Something in your eyes, what is it? The way you look at me. I can't even read it; I just know it has heat, I don't know what it means. Why do you always look at me that way? I'm sixteen again. Knees buckling. Butterflies in the pit of...
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2002.06.09
With terrorist attacks and bombs going off, evil has nearly been redefined to its previous Biblical levels by becoming Evil with an E, something that is reviled and must be wiped out at all costs. But let's not forget that being evil can be a very good thing in...
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2002.03.11
Ran across an amusing little site a few days ago that has a bevy of pickup lines. Some of the more amusing to share:Hey, you want to go out for pizza and some sex? What, you don't like pizza?Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. Yes is...
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2002.03.08
A friend of mine told me recently about a woman she knew who could orgasm after only a minute or two of sex play, no direct stimulation needed, and she was able to come dozens of times in a night. I don't know who this woman is but I...
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2002.02.24
Desperately Trying writes: "As soon as I moved in with him, our sex life began to dwindle. First once a week, and now maybe once every four to six months. I wanted to keep open communication about it so that we wouldn't end up where we are today, which is...
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2002.02.21
I want to live long enough to be a sassy old broad with memories full of smiles. I want to live long enough to be a sassy old broad sitting on my husband's knee and laughing about the good old days. Crazy as it seems, there are days when...
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2002.02.13
You know that BDSM is gaining mainstream acceptability when you begin to see charming bits of it crop up in your favourite TV shows. Last week's Buffy epsiode was a shocker for me. For those who watch the show, follow along. For those who don't, you may be a...
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2002.02.09
Have you ever wondered if the "snake" that enticed Eve to eat the apple in the first place, thereby causing the destruction of man and humanity's exile from paradise, was actually Adam's randy penis in the first place? How would history have changed if this were true? (In point...
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2002.01.24
I've rented porn sporadically for the past, oh, ten years or so. I'm not what you'd call a heavy consumer - I rent less than five movies a year, in general - but I do occasionally enjoy porn. More so since I found gay male porn, which is about...
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2002.01.23
There are eternal favourites of mine, of course. Seeing naked skin (my own, someone else's - it doesn't matter) in soft lighting. Someone kissing the back of my neck. Or the back of my knees. Eating food from someone else's fingers. Music that reaches you in places down deep, like...
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2002.01.17
Okay, this entry shall come with a warning: If you are a television snob (read: you love the Simpsons but eschew teen shows) you might as well walk on by.I have a secret confession to make. I'm addicted to Buffy the Vampire Slayer. And I mean seriously addicted. As...
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2002.01.03
First, turning thirty last month was no picnic. Particularly when there are such good times to look forward to in the future. Oi! Second, a warning to any woman considering the birth control shot called DepoProvera. I was on the thing for nearly a year, and the second half...
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2002.01.02
Now that's funny. Talk about not helping the average Sue to overcome her fear of the dentist... The award that every erotica writer lives in fear of....
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2001.12.13
There is nothing in this world sexier than a man who knows he can make you scream like you've never screamed before and tantalizes you with the knowledge. Notice I said knows, not thinks - the chasm between the two makes the difference between full-of-himself asshole and confidently, dangerously sexy...
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2001.11.07
If I ever wondered before if I could be a Dom (as most of my experiences up until now have been submissive) the past two weeks would have cured me of such silly thoughts. For two weeks now, I've been Mom to a four-month puppy who is adorable but...
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2001.10.14
Sorry it's been such a quiet month. With all that's been going on, sex just hasn't been on my mind as much. Apparently I'm not alone, because Plastic: sex and Daze Reader, among other sex-related blogs, have been a little thin in content themselves. The good news is that...
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2001.09.28
Ah, Australians. You gotta love 'em.Found a site a while back called Puppetry of the Penis, and thought I'd shared it with all of you, but I can't find the entry. So if I missed it, my apologies. You missed an amusing site. Two Australian men, just as bold...
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2001.08.28
I'm good at a great many things. I'm not going to list them here like a braggart's list, but I know them. This is enough. Have you ever found yourself wondering if you're any good at relationships? It's a question I've found I'm asking myself more and more often...
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2001.08.22
It's difficult for me (having grown up in the Western world) to understand how other cultures view sex, and how they treat sexual offences. Even more difficult is understanding how they decide who gets punished, and how. This AP report (via CNN) discusses the recent punishment of Amina Abdullahi,...
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2001.08.16
The Village Voice posted an article a few years ago (via mouthorgan) that raises the issue of overt sexuality in films, and how the MPAA determines the ratings for those films. There are some striking differences between the way that male-related sexuality (or any sexuality through the eyes of...
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2001.08.11
So you're sitting at home. Feeling a little pent-up. You browse through your collection of vibrators, dildos, plugs, ben-wa balls, creams and unguents and lubes (oh my!) and you just can't decide. Truth is, you're bored. You've tried them all, played with them all, wakened your neighbours screaming with...
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2001.07.30
Wow. Serious topics today. Far too serious for a sunny Sunday morning, but that's the way it goes sometimes, hm? First, on being a wife. I've been doing some thinking about this lately, since two of my girlfriends are getting married in the next year or so (and not...
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2001.07.08
Lots and lots to talk about today (making up for the past, silent week). First, a bit of frippery that I found hilarious: vibrator cozies. Don't hide 'em in the drawer, girls! Heading into more serious topics, the US Surgeon General just released his report on sexual health and...
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2001.07.02
What makes a lover great (for me, at least) is not the number of tricks he knows. It's not the number of toys he owns. It's not the smorgasbord of positions he can warp your body into during a lovemaking session. It's not length, it's not girth, and it has...
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2001.06.25
Louisiana tried. Well, at least one of their representatives tried, by adding an amendment to a bill that would get rid of the state's oral sex and sodomy laws (both are currently illegal in Louisiana, as in many other states). The bill was, unfortunately, unanimously voted down. I'm going...
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2001.06.19
The morning-after pill to prevent pregnancy has been around for quite some time. You sleep with someone and "oops" the condom breaks. No problem. Take the morning-after pill, and no little embryonic worries. It's a great invention, particularly for women who have been raped, as its defenders are quick...
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2001.06.15
Obscenity, obscenity, obscenity. Maybe if I say the word often enough it will lose its meaning and I will no longer be furious when I see community, regional and country leaders describing naked bodies and a completely natural and biological act with that word. On the other hand, maybe...
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2001.06.12
Here in Toronto, a bookstore named Glad Day Books got themselves into a spot of trouble with the Ontario Censor Board. The store sells gay and lesbian books and videos, and it seems one of their videos hadn't exactly passed the OCB's stringent (actually puritanical on some matters, to...
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2001.06.11
I've been taking a small (well-deserved) vacation from herdesires of late, working on a new sex-related web project. Fun, but a lot of work. More details later, perhaps. What forced me to break the silence? Another unbelievably narrow-minded news bit. I should really stop reading sex-related news. There's always...
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2001.06.09
At long last, I've managed to put together something longer than a diary entry. Alas, it's not fiction (which I really should get to) or reviews (three or four of which I really MUST get to, perhaps tomorrow) but some writing nonetheless. A new musing called deep fried ice...
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2001.05.27
Several years ago, there was a big hubbub here in Ontario about women's right to go topless in public. Big debates raged. Lots of press coverage. I believe that the law was eventually passed to make it legal to do so. Not that you'd notice; I've yet to see...
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2001.05.25
If sex was a colour, what colour would it be? There have been times in my life when it was white. White for love, white for purity, that wonderful music-swelling-in-the-background, proper camera lighting, young-lovers-well-met, joyous, this-is-the-love-of-my-life kind of sex. Just like in the movies. Don't let anyone tell you...
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2001.05.17
Well, okay, perhaps we shouldn't go quite that far. Still, I've enjoyed her My Messy Bedroom site for the last little while, and her latest article, Feeling Fine, is hilarious. I think most women would get a hoot out of it. Guys might learn a little something they didn't...
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2001.05.08
It's been a year since I asked my husband to leave. Within a few weeks, I'll be putting our divorce into motion. The past year has been a dazzling whirlwind of changes and experiences. And after the drought that was my marriage, many of those experiences had to do...
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2001.05.04
Picked up a great little book last week called the Sex Lover's Book of Lists. Just a whole bunch of trivia, really. Hundreds of lists about everything and anything sexual. I just finished the first chapter - History of Sex - and though I already knew a fair amount...
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2001.05.03
When laws become ridiculous, they're repealed. Or at least, they should be. Case in point: in Arizona, it's still against the law to have oral sex, anal sex, or (even more ridiculous) any non-procreational sex act. Hmm. Instead of removing these items from the books, the politicians down there...
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2001.04.29
We all get too serious about ourselves sometimes. I'm an offender, just as bad (if not worse) than your average Jill. But laughter has also saved me in times of stress or emotional upheaval. I'm naturally a smart-ass, as some of you may have guessed already. This facet instrinsic...
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2001.04.24
Kids are curious about sex. Every kid you know is curious about it. You, as a child, were likely curious about it. I was very curious about it, from a very young age. I remember hearing these words - dick cunt fuck and learning what power they held. Parents...
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2001.04.21
Ellen Fein, one of the authors of The Rules, is getting a divorce. This event occurs (not without irony) as her newest book, The Rules III: Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work, hits the shelves. If you're not familiar with The Rules, look it up online. I'm not...
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2001.04.16
Carol Queen shares some thoughts about being sex positive in this month's issue of Good Vibes magazine. She says - if I may quote her: If sex-positivity is Utopian--and in a way, it is--we have to be willing to envision the world we want, wherever we are, and start...
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2001.04.10
I decided to rent The Contender this weekend. I'm not usually one much for politics in the movies (or out of them, for that matter) but what the heck, it was up for some Oscars. I nearly ended up turning off the film in the first half-hour because it...
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2001.04.08
It's official. I now have more sex-related books than I know what to do with, or have time to read. They sit in little piles on my dining room table, mocking me. For some titles, of course, the prioritization is easy. I recently had two - two, mind you,...
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2001.04.03
You know, I started reading about BDSM just a little under a year ago. I was fascinated, scared, and hesitant.While it didn't take long for the appeal to kick in, one area of BDSM they cover in the books and articles I've read didn't make a lot of sense...
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2001.03.31
In my life, I've collected a great many things. As a child I collected stickers and friendship beads and marbles and rocks. In my teens, I collected figurines of wizards and dragons, chunks of gems like amethyst and quartz, and romance books. As an adult, I've collected Santa Claus(es),...
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2001.03.27
You could say I was always interested in sex. By the time I was fifteen (as yet untouched by man, so to speak), I'd read most of Masters and Johnson's Sex and Human Loving. My girlfriends and I would talk on the phone for hours about boys, about sex....
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2001.03.21
Nothing of great weight or importance here, just a few random notes to share: 1. American Sex Machines: The Hidden History of Sex at the U.S. Patent Office looks like an interesting read. Of hilarious and yet disturbing interest to me was the section on "rape prevention" patents -...
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2001.03.19
Are we going to see more of this as time goes on? Nineteen year old William Stowell is suing the hospital that circumsized him as an infant, claiming that they deprived him of a future of normal, sexual and more pleasurable intercourse. Interesting quote from the story: "The study,...
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2001.03.16
Reading a new article on sexy furniture on Cleansheets.com got me to thinking about all those toys you can't bring home in a shopping bag. Is there really a market out there for furniture specifically designed for sex? Time for me to hit the research trail and find out......
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2001.03.14
You know, when I run across something that has a potential to infuriate me and fill me with righteous indignation, I should know better than to read it. I should click a link, do a search, walk away from the computer altogether. But I can't. Just like anti-porn activists...
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2001.03.11
I'm frustrated by porn/erotic films in general. It's like music (or was) - unless you actually buy the tape, there's no way of telling whether the movie will be any good. And once you've bought it, you're stuck with it. I have a few Candida Royalle and Andrew Blake...
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2001.03.09
I have to say yet again how much I love the recently-launched Good Vibes magazine. Really, of all the online sex e-zines, this is my favourite, bar none. It's intelligent without being too in love with its own literary qualities (the way I sometimes feel about Nerve) but fun,...
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2001.03.07
Two things on the agenda today. One, I've added a new musing to the site, called Voyage of Discovery. Have you ever had a moment in your life when the lightbulb suddenly turns on? Not a glimmer of light, not a soft glow, but a blazing white light of...
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2001.03.03
Anyone living in a world with access to television, the Internet, and newspapers has likely heard the word Taliban lately. The Taliban reign over most of Afghanistan right now, and they're making headlines all over the place - destroying priceless, ancient statues of Buddha has been the story du...
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2001.03.02
Ohhhh, now I swore I'd never discuss politics in this diary. Too boring, too contraversial, and really, who cares about my political leanings? But just weeks after the Bush administration took over in the U.S., I'm finding myself sitting on news reports that make me incredulous and shaking my...
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2001.03.01
After an incredible span of working way too many hours, I'm finally nearing a point where I can resume the bits and pieces of my social life. This weekend was a good start; Bast and I decided to satisfy our curiousity and rent some gay male porn. To say we...
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2001.02.25
Have you ever been to a fetish night or a BDSM club? Here in Toronto, as far as I know, there are no outright BDSM clubs the way there are in Seattle (The Wet Spot), which I hear so much about from reading Jane and Peter's diaries. We do...
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2001.02.22
I've received several letters lately wondering where the Muse has gone. Those of you who've been reading my diary for a while might remember that the Muse used to make cameo appearances here in the diary (and in the stories) from time to time. Frankly, I was a little...
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2001.02.19
I mentioned a while back that about 3% of men (according to an article on The Position's web site) can suck their own cock, but I'd never seen it, except in one photo that I swear was manipulated digitally to make it appear so. Browsing through some of the...
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2001.02.17
For days now, I've been thinking about the concept of denial. Sometimes we deny ourselves things, deliberately or by chance. Sometimes other people deny us things, deliberately or by chance. And sometimes it's chance itself that denies us. It's been a big denial week for me.1. I've been (deliberately)...
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2001.02.16
Ananova recently reported that a sex shop in Switzerland will be closed to male customers one day a week, to allow their female visitors the chance to shop for their sex toys in relative privacy without having to endure the glances and drool (read: sturm und drang) of men....
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2001.02.13
There has always been something sexy about a man in uniform. For my generation, that thigh-clenching response was firmly embedded in our sexual subconsicous from the moment Richard Gere strode up to Debra Winger dressed in full navy dress, swung her up in his arms and carried her away....
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2001.02.12
Finally, after a loooong dry spell, I've added two new stories to the site. The first, Naughty Note, was just a little bit of fluff, partly written nearly a year ago when exchanging some naughty emails with a nice gentleman who also writes erotica. No, that's not his email......
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2001.02.11
It's a very cool word. Rubenesque. According to Mirriam-Webster, it means: suggestive of the painter Rubens or his works - plump or rounded usually in a pleasing or attractive way (a Rubenesque figure). What it all boils down to is that women didn't always have to be stick figures...
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2001.02.09
After all the erotica I've read (my shelves are full to bursting with the stuff) you'd think I wouldn't run across anything that titillated and surprised me. Arouse, sure - these books are wonderful mind candy. But to run across something, particularly of the vanilla variety, that I'd never read,...
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2001.02.07
I'm starting to like The Position more and more. They've got some good stuff there. And in my never-ending quest for literate and intelligent sex writing on the web, that's a Good Thing. Case in point: this month's Dick-tionary. Reminds me an awful lot of The Book of the...
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2001.02.05
I warned her. That's all I can say. Months ago, Bast (at my never-ending encouragement - ok, some might call it harassing) picked up the very same little silver bullet that rocked my world. And when my little bullet bit the dust (overuse, you say? Bah! no such thing)...
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2001.02.01
Of all the places in the world I've wanted to go, of all the events I've wanted to see, being in Rio during Carnival has always been one of the most pervasive. I'd love to see Egypt, sure, for the pyramids. Ditto to Rome for the Coliseum. But Carnival...
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2001.02.01
For the first time in quite a while, I ran across something of interest at Salon. It's tough, I know, to come up with something fascinating every single day about sex. Some days there's just nothing new to say. But I digress. This article is about lube. The fun...
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2001.01.31
Contraception. Maybe it's because it's such an awful, long, ugly word. Or maybe it's because it can bring the whole gamut of human reality into play - life, death, sickness, health. Whatever the reason, people hate to think about contraception. They hate to deal with it. They hate discussing...
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2001.01.29
Most of the people who know me in life assume that if I were to get "into" (their emphasis, not mine) BDSM that I would be a dominant. It's a reasonable enough thesis - I tend to be fairly (ahem) assertive in my day-to-day life. I've been at least...
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2001.01.23
First off, let me say I've always hated Valentine's Day. I haven't just hated it when I was single - though I am now, and that always brings and extra edge of bitterness to the whole affair - but I hated it when I was married too. Because the...
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2001.01.21
First, at long last, a quickie on my trip with Bast to the peeler bar last weekend. It was her first time ever. I think she was a little disappointed by the action, overall. Most of the girls, while relatively pretty, just sort of swayed back and forth, walked...
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2001.01.20
I've been officially working too many hours to formulate any great ideas or opinions on anything sexual. Very tired little Vikki. So, I'm subjecting you to yet another hodgepodge of miscellaneous bits that I've run across in the past couple of days. First, though, I wanted to mention I...
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2001.01.17
I've mentioned before how much I love fingers and hands. I love the feel of them inside and out, and while I enjoy cunnilingus there are just some heights I reach through being touched that I never quite seem to reach with a tongue. At last, I'm not alone. Read...
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2001.01.15
I've been trying to decide where to go this year. I know I'm taking a trip, but was trying to decide between London, Rome, San Francisco, or the Grand Canyon. Finding out about a huge web conference in San Francisco decided me: I'm going to the City by the...
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2001.01.12
If you live in North America or at least have access to the mainstays of American culture - television and movies - you will have likely noticed at one point or another that movies with high degrees of violence in them but little sex are much more likely to...
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2001.01.11
A great feature at Nerve.com caught my eye this morning, called Gimme Shelter. It's one man's personal essay about cunnilingus - why he loves it. Thought-provoking and hugely fascinating read. Frankly, I love to read stories like this - partly because it always helps to ease my mind about...
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2001.01.10
While it's quite de rigeur for women to have at least one sex toy - and some of us have several - it has been my experience that guys, on the whole, don't have any interest in trying out the myriad of sex toys available for men. I surveyed...
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2001.01.08
Went to see a show yesterday called The Vagina Monologues. Interesting, hilarious, fun, moving. I worked up a small review you might want to check out. If you haven't seen the show, but would like to, or just want to learn more, check out their web site. Also ran...
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2001.01.07
Well, I'd threatened earlier this evening to redo the design for the site, and I realized sitting there that I should just damn well get off my butt and do it now, while the idea is fresh in my mind. So, several hours, a numb butt and WAY too...
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2001.01.06
Ran across this article on The Globe all about a new venture in the Big Apple - a sex museum. Something a little more highbrow, apparently, than the ones in Europe, at least according to the article. They've even got Betty Dodson and a few other well-respected names in...
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2001.01.05
I've got my nose deep in at least three of the books I picked up last week (no, silly, not all at once...). But one in particular tends to stay with me even when I'm not reading it, so I thought I'd share some of my thoughts so far....
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2001.01.04
Has a wonderful time New Years Eve; well, a definite improvement over the last several New Years, at least. Bast and her man and I trekked all the way to a different city for the privelege to party. Drank WAY too much booze, flirted outrageously with a few cute...
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2001.01.02
Bast and I hit the city's sex shops today with a vengeance, and saw SO many things we'd like to get. I tried diligently to take it easy on my debit card. I had moderate success with this. It's just that there's so much fun stuff out there! It's...
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2000.12.31
First, let me report back about the "Slim Line Massager" vibrator I picked up yesterday. Yay me! :-) I think we can safely say I like it. The porno got a little better, too, near the end... or maybe that was just because I was imagining dark eyes watching...
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2000.12.29
Well, it took me an extra day longer than I'd expected, but I did manage to hit the sex shops today. Had a blast doing it, too, though I was disappointed by my search for hot leather clothing. It seems that women who wear sizes larger than size 6...
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2000.12.28
Back from the land of dysfunctia (otherwise known as my parents' place) and so very VERY happy to be back in the big city. When three different cabbies cut me off as I drove through the city to my apartment, I wanted to get out and kiss them. I'm...
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2000.12.26
Woke up this morning at 4:45 AM just like a kid. Unlike a kid, I had to have the help of a very loud, very annoying alarm clock to accomplish this. This is what happens when you put off driving to your parents' home until Christmas morning. But despite...
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2000.12.25
Missionary style just not cutting it for you anymore? Try Sexual Positions Free. Cute site, I had some fun looking through it. Some of these looked very familiar, some just painful or radically awkward. What positions do you like? For me, I do love doggy style (I think I've...
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2000.12.24
Stopped in to Sexilicious for my weekly dose, and ran across an article that piqued my interest about the Ultimate Fantasy Gift from Victoria's Secret. Well, I had to go and take a look, didn't I? First of all, the idea of spending 15 MILLION dollars (US, no less......
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2000.12.20
It all began with The Book of the Penis (written by Maggie Paley). While doing some online shopping, I ran across this book, which Dan Savage (Savage Love) said "should be required reading for anyone who has a penis, wants a penis, or loves someone who has or wants...
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2000.12.19
Dating - more than one man, even - does not guarantee you won't end up spending Saturday night alone on the couch. It's okay, though, since I didn't really actively pursue setting anything up for tonight. I poured myself a glass of wine, turned all the Christmas lights on,...
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2000.12.17
When most people discuss the most romantic movie scene ever, they usually mention scenes from Casablanca, From Here To Eternity, or more modern movies with men like Mel Gibson, Sean Connery or the like in the starring role. As usual, I tend to be a little different. My entire...
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2000.12.17
Here's the funniest thing: for the most part, I don't think there's ANY problem with men. Sure, they're different from women, kind of like an exotic species of fauna that's interesting to look at but not always so easy to understand, but I don't think this is a problem....
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2000.12.17
Found another really, really super site. It's going in my bookmarks right now. Called Sex Toy Guides, it's the ultimate online guide to choosing and buying a sex toy. There's a little bit of history here, some discussion about guilt and why anyone would buy a sex toy, and...
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2000.12.14
With the holiday season approaching - "more rapid than eagles", as it were - you might find yourself hunting for holiday-related fun on the web. Libida.com fits the bill (don't they always?) with a few seasonal-themed feature articles this month. Did I mention how much I love this site?...
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2000.12.13
Uploaded a new story today to the stories area called First Time. I'm trying my hand at other types of erotica; namely, the short-short. It's a very short little story (kind of like the haiku of prose) meant to describe just one moment, one feeling, or one thought. It...
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2000.12.12
One of my all-time favourite scenes from Laurell Hamilton's Anita Blake: Vampire Hunter series is in The Killing Dance when Anita and the gang must get dressed in full fetish wear to meet the head of the local werewolf pack (they never explain why, really, in the series, but...
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2000.12.11