Buttery new leather with decadently polished brass hardware encircle my neck, wrists, ankles. I feel more secure already, while at the same time sweetly threatened. I wait, breathing shallow from anticipation, as I stand in front of him. “On all fours on the bed. Ass facing me.”, he instructs. It feels wrong to like it so much when his voice hardens, when he just tells me what to do...
This afternoon I was curled up with an erotic novel. In this particular novel there was a section with a LOT of references to using your safe word. As in, they were setting up a scene in the “club” and at each step the sub (main character) kept balking and the DMs kept asking her if she wanted to use her safe word. However, they haven’t fully explained what...
I know. Two posts in a month. Y’all might faint. 🙂 Dana writes: I was just wondering if you could tell me exactly how you got into BDSM? I mean, was it something that just happened? A partner who was interested and sparked your interest? You had always been interested and were lucky enough to have a receptive lover? You actively searched for a dominant man? When I first read this I thought:...
So you’ve been thinking about all this BDSM stuff. Mostly, it scares or confuses you. But curiousity being what it is… maybe you’d like to know more. Thanks to Sasha, I found a really, really excellent primer on how BDSM works – it answers a LOT of the questions I had when I first got curious about this lifestyle, in a very conversational, sane, and forthright way...
There are so few good movies out there that explore power exchange. BDSM porn is useless to me, in most cases, since it’s incredibly contrived and the actors so rarely enjoy their roles or the activities they’re performing. What’s more, the eroticism just isn’t there in most cases. And for me, BDSM is about eroticism. Power exchange isn’t matter of fact: it’s...
Whether you’re just nudging around the edges of kinky play or delving deeply into a BDSM-centered relationship, limits are something you have to think about, and discuss. What your personal limits are. What their personal limits are. And so on. But there’s another limit that I hadn’t really touched on until recently in my own play. And that’s the limit of misbehaving...
Was running through my blogroll today, catching up on what everyone has to say. And spanking, it would seem, is the theme du jour. Or is it just that I read a lot of sites about this? At Spanking Blog, Bethie talks about her birthday spanking (leaving me unbearably jealous – do you all realize I’ve never had an actual *birthday* spanking?) and the discovery of the wonderful sensuality...
Since I’m on a kick with my last post about hiding your sexuality… I can’t tell you how many people in the BDSM lifestyle I’ve spoken to who are completely in the closet about their kinky life. To the point of breaking down furniture, completely cleaning or changing their rooms when people come to visit. To the point that not a single person other than past partners has...
Wow, it’s been all about the vagina month, hm? Guess I was kind of on a kick. The good news is today, I have lovely and yummy toys to share. Somehow I’d missed the lovely site that is Extreme Restraints until Eden pointed me to it today, and I have to say that I have completely, head over heels, fallen in love with their products. I may need to get several. Among my favourite finds...
I’ve got to say, I love getting comments on here – keep ’em coming! Particularly when you’ve also got a kinky blog; I’ve found a few great sites recently, often because of sites left in comments or sites that my commenters link to in their own blogs. Newest finds, all duly added to the sidebar: The Journey – Ran into this one through Danae’s kind comments...