So you’ve been thinking about all this BDSM stuff. Mostly, it scares or confuses you. But curiousity being what it is… maybe you’d like to know more.
Thanks to Sasha, I found a really, really excellent primer on how BDSM works – it answers a LOT of the questions I had when I first got curious about this lifestyle, in a very conversational, sane, and forthright way. I’m going to recommend it not only to you but to any of my friends who are curious about this lifestyle, and still have questions.
The primer: Why BDSM?.
He’s also got some great articles on: Why? Why would you hurt someone you love? and Domination for Nice Guys.
Great quote:
When it comes right down to it, if your goal is self-knowledge and personal enlightenment, I put six months in a BDSM relationship up there with three years in a Tibetian monestary any day.
Most people who haven’t read or played much with BDSM find it incredible to believe that BDSM is so heavily psychologically charged, that you can actually learn things and even work out issues you’ve had for years within the limits of a loving BDSM relationship.
But it’s true. I’m a healthier and more emotionally evolved person as a result of the play that I’ve done with my partners. I know myself better and have learned more about my psyche than I could possibly explain in this wee post.
Anywhoo, go. Read.
[And as a side note – my partner got me this lovely I Enjoy A Good Spanking t-shirt for Christmas. It’s hilarious. And it fits like a dream. I’m waxing and waning between anticipation and dread for when the summer comes and he wants me to wear it in public. ;)]
Love the shirt. Now, since it’s winter, you can wear it underneath another shirt and no one will ever know ; )
I’m sure you’ll adore wearing it so the world can read it too! : p
That quote is perfect!
Thank you very much for the links. Very informative.
I think you should wear it to the mall but first, you need to be spanked and when you return, get another, oh did I tell you, I sometimes get these evil thoughts running through my head, hehe! Thanks!
Great little post, Vikki! You are SO right about the self-knowledge that comes from opening yourself (and your partner doing the same herself) to such intimate interaction.
I tried to give a spanking to my then-new partner about a month into the relationship — she briefly went along with it, but soon rebelled and took ME over HER lap. That was the first time I found myself able to acknowledge my need to be submissive (at least most of the time).
It’s been a revealing process…
Hee hee! I love t-shirt hell; they have an e-mail service, too, where we got our “@daddysbeenabadgirl.com” domain address. My favorite shirt there is “You can’t have manslaughter without laughter!”, but Hiromi refuses to wear any of ’em. There’re more sexy shirts at http://www.lochers.com, too!
Loved the post. Love BDSM 😉
I enjoy good spanking too! 🙂 Found your site on google Really cool site!
Tony,
If you dislike this site so much you don’t have to read it. Go elsewhere!
Have you ever heard the saying: “To each their own”? This site has a large number of loyal readers (who are wishing that Vikki would post some more soon!)
Nobody is forcing you to read this.
If you just go searching the internet for things that will piss you off, then you are a sad and pathetic individual.
Oh….looks like you just deleted Tony’s comment for not playing nicely. Good on you, Vikki! Tony was a prick! Sorry my comment now seems out of context. 🙂
BTW, Vikki, can we expect a new post from you soon?!?!?!
*laughs* Thanks for jumping to my defense anyway, Cat. 🙂 Yes, hidden inside the comment was a URL for something completely unrelated – in other words, it was spam.
So, the delete key was my friend.
A post soon, guys, I promise! You would NOT believe how busy it’s been!
“A post soon, guys, I promise! You would NOT believe how busy it’s been!”
Busy is ok, Vikki. I’m just glad you’re ok. (I was considering posting something about a “search party” and thought I’d look in your comments first.